Read how a some of our volunteers got involved in Funeral Consumer Advocacy. Nuestro equipo Catalina: Estando interesado en temas relacionados con el final de la vida, leí un libro en la década de 1990 sobre el cuidado de los muertos. (Desde entonces, el autor es coautor de un nuevo libro que ahora recomiendo: Final Rights: Reclaiming the American Way of Death de Joshua Slocum y Lisa Carlson). Mi esposo y yo hablamos sobre lo que queríamos y lo que no queríamos con respecto a la atención después de la muerte y nos aseguramos de que nuestros hijos supieran nuestras preferencias. En 2007, mi esposo y yo tuvimos la oportunidad de servir en una misión en Nueva Zelanda durante 18 meses, donde vimos que las familias que cuidaban los cuerpos de sus seres queridos fallecidos en el hogar era algo normal. Asistimos a 4 visitas domiciliarias, cada vez maravillándonos de lo cómodos que nos sentíamos, de cómo nos gustaban los ataúdes sencillos, de cómo las familias podían honrar las tradiciones de su cultura y su religión. Nos maravilló el respeto que mostró la familia al tener siempre a un familiar en la casa con el cuerpo, y lo natural que era ver a la persona con la palidez que se da con la muerte en lugar de maquillaje artificial. Cuando mi esposo falleció en 2011, fue satisfactorio para mí y mis hijos adultos cuidarlo en casa, pero fue un desafío hacerlo en un país con tantos conceptos erróneos sobre el valor y la legalidad de hacerlo. Me convertí en voluntario de FCA de Utah, con la esperanza de poder ayudar a los habitantes de Utah a aprender que tienen opciones más allá de las que se ofrecen en una morgue. Quiero que todos sepan que pueden dirigir el funeral de aquellos a quienes han amado y cuidado en vida. Catalina 801-605-8883 Joyce: En 1994 vi un artículo en el periódico sobre un hombre en New Hampshire que hizo un ataúd de pino simple para su papá. En el artículo, se citaba a un director de una funeraria diciendo: "Muchas personas quieren ser enterradas en una caja de pino, pero cuando llega el momento, terminan con el ataúd comercial estándar". Estaba estupefacto. ¿Por qué la gente no puede conseguir lo que ELLA quiere? Así que investigué un poco que me hizo concluir que necesitaba unirme a FCA (entonces llamada FAMSA "Sociedades funerarias y conmemorativas de América"). Pasaron seis años, cuando en 2000 había visto suficientes artículos en mi periódico local que mostraban familias que compraban un funeral que no podían pagar, relegándose a sí mismos a la recaudación de fondos para pagar la factura. Exclamé: "¿No saben que un funeral no tiene que costar tanto?" Decidido a liberar a las familias de Utah para que cuiden a sus muertos de una manera asequible, yo, con un pequeño grupo de entusiastas, reinicié la filial de Utah que se había cerrado antes del 94. Y aquí estamos hoy. Nuestro evento más dramático ocurrió después de que la Legislatura de Utah eliminó la capacidad de los ciudadanos para presentar un certificado de defunción en 2006. Se lo entregaron exclusivamente a los directores de funerarias, algunos de los cuales mintieron sobre la ley y vendieron familias que solo querían un certificado de defunción. Así que en 2009 convencimos a la Legislatura de devolver a los ciudadanos el derecho de presentar un certificado de defunción directamente con Vital Records. Joyce 801-368-5884 (móvil) Sharlyn: Aquí estoy representado en un lugar donde me encantaría ser enterrado; directamente en el suelo para nutrir esta hermosa Tierra que siempre ha nutrido tan profundamente mi alma. Fue mi pasión por el medio ambiente lo que me llevó a la conciencia del "entierro verde" alrededor de 2013. Inmediatamente me aferré a las ideas tanto del entierro natural como de los funerales en el hogar. Habiendo dado a luz en casa y educado a mis hijos en casa, los funerales en casa me parecen muy correctos. Cuando llega el momento de cuidar a un ser querido que está muriendo, anhelo llorarlo y cuidarlo en mi propio espacio personal y en mis propios términos. Vengo de una larga línea de entusiastas del bricolaje, así que me imagino uniéndonos para construir un ataúd, vestir el cuerpo, cavar la tumba y cualquier otro trabajo de sanación y significado. Sé que algunas personas se consuelan al ver que los cuerpos de sus seres queridos parecen estar durmiendo durante el embalsamamiento mientras los miman en el satén de un costoso ataúd. Sin embargo, sé que también hay personas con los pies en la tierra como yo que anhelan alternativas más simples, frugales y respetuosas con el medio ambiente. Estas opciones requieren un poco más de "excavación", pero ahí es donde yo y mi equipo en la FCA entramos como voluntarios para ayudarlo a planificar un funeral que se ajuste tanto a su visión como a su presupuesto. Sharlynn 801-391-6556 (móvil) Kathleen Forrest Cutch, Representante Brad Daw, Joyce Mitchell, Marcia & Dave Racehorse-Robles 2009 Sharlyn Correo electrónico info@misitio.com Llamar 123-456-7890 Seguir

A daughter needed to sell her parents New Jersey plots and buy California plots for them. It was a tall order that had to be done right... One woman shared that she posted the two NJ plots her parents wanted to sell on Facebook Marketplace. She had a potential buyer within two days! She made sure they were real people before entertaining them as buyers. She hunted Facebook Marketplace for people who want to sell plots in the exact CA cemetery her parents want and found sellers!! She sold her parents NJ plots AND bought CA plots for her parents all successfully and legally through each cemetery's individual offices. It took several phone calls and proper forms signed by the buyers in person and paid paperwork fees ($700 as the buyer at the CA cemetery, which said they were raising their prices several hundred dollars that month and $1300 tranfer fee paid by the buyer at the NJ cemetery). She was only dissapointed by the exorbitant future fees (opening/closing, vaults, stones, inspections etc) for actual burial in the CA plots managed by SCI, but at least she did the juggling part like a pro.

Which States require embalming? Which States require you hire a funeral director? Quick and easy at a glance chart. Legalities in OTHER States If leaving from the States of Alabama , Minnesota, or Nebraska then embalming is mandated by law. New Jersey requires embalming only if the body is shipped via common carrier . Several other states require either embalming *or* a sealed casket if the body is shipped via common carrier . However, this is rarely enforced and funeral homes in those states will routinely ship unembalmed bodies (for Jewish clients, for example). Deaths occurring in AL, CT, IL, IN, IA, LA, MI NE, NJ, NY will require the involvement of a funeral director on some level (such as simply their presence or filing paperwork).

When unexpected death occurs an autopsy from the Utah State Medical Examiners Office may buy you the time to plan a home funeral without hiring a funeral director. We offer a few tips to allay your fears and help things go smoothly. Restos de la autopsia Si la familia quiere dirigir los servicios y la disposición final de un cuerpo que ha requerido una autopsia, la oficina del médico forense (MEO) lo alentará a recoger el cuerpo dentro de los 30 días, pero el MEO es sensible a las circunstancias atenuantes, por lo que le complace negociar una fecha de recogida que pueda funcionar para su familia. También dejarán que su familia conocer el estado del cuerpo. El ME solo cierra el cuerpo con costuras ligeras, por lo tanto, si el daño es extenso, el cuerpo se colocará en plástico y una bolsa para cadáveres para que no se detecte nada antiestético cuando se coloque en el ataúd que trae la familia. En esta situación, se deben planificar los servicios de ataúd cerrado. Esto significa que si se desea una visita, debe ser ataúd cerrado. Por lo tanto, se llama visitación y se lleva a cabo de la misma manera que se lleva a cabo un velatorio. Por supuesto, otra opción es entregar el cuerpo directamente a un cementerio o crematorio para su disposición final. Esto puede ser seguido por un funeral sin el cuerpo presente. Por lo tanto, se llama servicio conmemorativo y se lleva a cabo de la misma manera que se lleva a cabo un funeral.

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A Sample Form using the wording in Utah Code 58-9-601 to make a ready to fill out assignment for an Agent to Control Disposition of Remains Assign An Agent to Control Disposition of Remains Form Appointment of Agent best simple.pdf APPOINTMENT OF AGENT TO CONTROL DISPOSITION OF REMAINS I, the designator, ___________________________________________voluntarily make known my desire that, upon my death, the control of the disposition of my dead body be controlled by __________________________________________________________________, and with respect to that subject only, I hereby appoint the above named person as my "agent to control the disposition of my remains." This designated agent has complete authority to act on my behalf and direct any and all details related to my after-death care, including: obituary, funeral or memorial service, cemetery, monument, memorialization, reception, final disposition, and other related matters. SPECIAL DIRECTIONS: Set forth below are any special directions limiting the power granted to my agent as well as any instructions or wishes desired to be followed in the disposition of my remains: _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ I have entered into a pre-paid pre-need contract with a mortuary or cemetery: yes / no If yes, name of entity: __________________________________________________ I have provided a copy to my agent, attached. FUNDING: I have provided sufficient funds to pay for my after-death care in this way: _____________________________________________________________________ If for any reason those funds become inadequate, my designated agent is personally responsible to pay only the balance of those costs that he/she authorized. My agent has full authority to make any changes to reduce the cost of my after-deathcare. DURATION: This appointment becomes effective upon my death. PRIOR APPOINTMENTS REVOKED: I hereby revoke any prior appointment of any person to control the disposition of my remains, including (if a different person) a personal representative named in my will (according to Utah code 75-3-701). RELIANCE: Any cemetery organization, business operating a crematory or columbarium or both, funeral director, embalmer, dispositioner, funeral committee or mortuary, Vital Records Registrar, or Care Facility who receives a copy of this document may act under it. No business or agency shall be liable because of reliance on a copy of this document. ASSUMPTION: MY AGENT, BY ACCEPTING THIS APPOINTMENT, ASSUMES THE OBLIGATIONS PROVIDED HEREIN, AND IS BOUND BY THE PROVISIONS OF, UTAH SECTION 58-9-602 which states that a person designated in writing has the first right and duty to control the disposition and funeral arrangements of a deceased person. Make this form official by signing in front of a notary, or follow Utah law for witness signatures. (Utah code 58-9-602(1)(a) and 75-2-502(1)(a)(b)(c)). Designated Agent acceptance of appointment: Signature Print Name Date: SUCCESSORS: If my agent or a successor agent dies, becomes legally disabled, resigns, or refuses to act, or if my marriage to my agent or successor agent is dissolved by divorce, annulled, or declared void before my death (and this instrument does not state that the agent or successor agent continues to serve in that circumstance), I hereby appoint the following persons (each to act alone and successively, in the order named) to serve as my agent to control the disposition of my remains as authorized by this document: 1st Successor Signature Date: Print Name 2nd Successor Signature Date: Print Name --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- WITNESSES affirm DESIGNATOR made the stipulations stated above Signature Witness 1: Date: Print Name Signature Witness 2: Date: Print Name Or Notarized: In the STATE OF UTAH, COUNTY OF ______________________ The foregoing instrument was acknowledged by the DESIGNATOR ______________________________________________________ (name) before me this_____________________(date) (Seal) Notary Public Printed Name: Commission Expires:

Examine the slippery language in a Dignity Cemetery Contract. DIGNITY MEMORIAL CEMETERIES 2023 CONTRACTS WORDING #3 CEMETERY RULES & REGULATIONS Purchaser agrees that all rights conveyed under this agreement are subject to, and purchaser agrees to, at all times comply with, the present rules, regulations and bylaws of seller on file and subject to examination in its office, and as may be hereinafter adopted, amended, or altered. Purchaser hereby acknowledges that a copy of the seller's cemetery rules and regulations was provided to purchaser for retention. [The cemetery seems to be saying that it can change it’s rules and regs any time and the signer of this purchase agreement has to comply. “…Oh, but don’t worry there’s a copy in our office you can go see”] ENTIRE AGREEMENT: This agreement contains all terms which have been agreed upon by purchaser and seller relating to the goods and services listed on Schedule A. This contract replaces all other discussions and agreements, whether oral or written relating to those goods and services. [So whatever was said to the purchaser or agreed on verbally will be void and considered overridden by whatever is written in this new contract. Not cool. Signer be warned.] ARBITRATION: ...purchaser agrees that any claim shall be submitted to and finally resolved by mandatory and binding arbitration.... ....Except as may be required by law, neither party nor an arbitrator may disclose the existence, content or results of any arbitration here under without the prior written consent of both parties. [Sounds like the signer would never be able to file a complaint to even an oversight agency.] Anchor 1

Following our steps on resolving complaints will save you time and money. You might even attain resolution in step one! Steps for Resolving Complaints Against a Mortuary, Cemetery or Monument Dealer Each step may result in resolution, so that you can stop there. 1. Contact the Funeral Home (FH) or Cemetery (CEM) with your concern. Express your Complaint so that you will be heard and understood: *Be specific , *Be friendly/relaxed *Be brief, *Tell them what you wish THEM to do . What would satisfy you? 1.5 If the FH or CEM doesn't respond positively then you should contact a funeral consumer advocate. Funeral Consumers Alliance has enthusiastic volunteer experts nationwide . We may be able to help you see what your real case is so you can focus on getting what you really need. 2. Follow up with the FH or CEM in writing . Let them know you are prepared to submit the complaint to the appropriate authorities if they can't resolve your concern; This serves several purposes: -It's stress reducing to get this out of your head and onto paper. -Writing things while they are easy to recall will help accuracy. -Later you can simply copy and paste as you continue to reach out for the appropriate help. -The FH or CEM will know that you are serious. -If your description is calm, clear and factual they are more likely to see your efforts as sincere and reasonable. -After they read it they can plan a more thoughtful response than they did at first. 3. Submit your complaint to Utah's Office of the Attorney General (AG) how-to on the Utah Ag's website or the Dept of Consumer Protection (check each website for what types of complaints they can handle. 4. File your complaint with the Federal Trade Commission (FTC). Although the FTC cannot resolve individual problems for consumers, it can act against a company if it sees a pattern of possible law violations. It is not a violation of The Funeral Rule that "The Funeral Director spoke in a rude tone". See what violations are applicable in the Free PDF of the FTC's "Funeral Rule" or talk to a volunteer at your local FCA . Anyone familiar with The FTC's Funeral Rule will be able to help you figure if your complaint has violated The Rule. To file your complaint: https://reportfraud.ftc.gov/#/?orgcode=FCA =>click on "something else" as the category for a funeral/cemetery complaint (since there is no specific category on the ftc site for "Funerals") but the FTC truly WANTS to collect these funeral-related complaints. 5. Leave a factual online review of the business. This may cause them to reach out to you, in hopes that you will change your review. We've seen this a couple times. 6. File a complaint with the Licensure oversight Board of your State (this will not get your complaint resolved, but could get the FH investigated and censured). List of every State Funeral and Cemetery Board in the United States. Utah State's Code on what is considered unprofessional conduct 58-9-5 7. Ask for a review of your case, in hopes that the association will censure their member: -International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association (ICCFA) https://iccfa.com/ccsc/ -National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA) 800-228-6332 or https://tinyurl.com/nfrmy98m -Monument Builders of North America (MBNA) (800) 362-2546 or info@monumentbuilders.org 8. Tell the media (TV show, podcaster, any kind of social media), just get the word out. Some states have Cemetery Oversight Boards. Most do not. If your problem is with a rural cemetery you can reach out to your county or show up to a County Commission meeting. If it is a city cemetery , tell the local media and show up to a city council meeting and speak during the public comment period. 9. Go to the Better Business Bureau (BBB) site in your state and leave a report. We witnessed one instance where a simple complaint to the BBB eventually helped an FBI investigation. You can't file a review AND a complaint. Only one or the other. I would leave a review if you want to get the word out and protect others. 10. Tell your Utah State Legislative Representative your idea for a Bill to prevent this from happening to others. Be concise in writing/telling your story. Don't approach them when they are in the middle of a legislative session (January to March), unless there is a bill on their current docket that relates. Further Complaint Filing Tips: General Tips from the FTC: https://consumer.ftc.gov/media/video-0054-how-file-complaint-federal-trade-commission General Tips from FCA: https://funerals.org/?consumers=filing-a-complaint

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Examples of body boards (beirs) for carrying the dead wrapped in a shroud. Pictures & instructions on how to make and use one. Instrucciones Tabla de carrocería/ entierro de féretro Cementerio de conservación Larkspur Taylor Hollow, Nashville, Tennessee Encuentre una lámina de madera contrachapada de 2 pies de ancho (1/2" de espesor para personas livianas, 3/4" de espesor para personas pesadas) de madera contrachapada CDX (debe lijarse) o madera contrachapada ACX (no es necesario lijar). Una lámina de 4 pies de ancho de una tienda de mejoras para el hogar costará alrededor de $60. Pueden cortarlo por la mitad si no tienes una sierra de mesa. Dibuje los asideros aproximadamente a 1 1/2" del borde. Taladre un agujero en la línea de cada uno (para que pueda introducir la sierra de sable en el orificio). Corte los óvalos de asideros. Consigue una sábana o manta tamaño king para envolver la tabla y el cuerpo. En la foto de arriba, el cuerpo y la tabla están envueltos por separado. Pero si no desea que la forma del cuerpo sea visible, coloque la tabla sobre la sábana o la manta y luego el cuerpo encima de la tabla y luego envuélvala. Colocar el féretro envuelto en un juego de caballetes puede facilitar el envolver tiras de láminas en 5 puntos a lo largo del cuerpo (cabeza, pecho, cintura, piernas y pies). Aquí hay una guía para levantar, transportar y bajar un ataúd o una tabla para cadáveres para el entierro. Obtenga una cuerda o correas de aproximadamente 1/2 " para bajar el féretro a la tumba. Para una tumba de 6 pies de profundidad, necesita aproximadamente tres tramos de correa o cuerda de 20 pies (o seis tramos de 10 pies, que se dejan en la tumba porque están atados a las manijas). Manilla Rope es biodegradable si debe dejarse en el suelo. Traiga dos o tres tablas pesadas para atravesar la tumba para que pueda colocar el féretro sobre la tumba. Cementerio de conservación Heartwood Preserve, Trinity, FL Cementerio de conservación Prairie Creek, Gainesville, FL Foto cortesía de Melissa Hill Instruction for lifting, carrying and lowering caskets or body boards for burial. If lowering a bier into the grave: Use approx 1/2" thick rope, or straps. For a 6 ft deep grave you need approx three 20 ft lengths of strap or rope (or six 10 ft lengths -which are left in the grave because they are tied to the handles). Manilla Rope is biodegradable. Bring three heavy boards to traverse the grave if you want the bier to rest over the grave before lowering. You would need another person to pull these out as the pall bearers lift before lowering. https://www.thenaturalfuneral.com/shrouds/ This company in Colorado provides products like shrouds with heavy duty handles for use in lowering the deceased. AND they offer body composting (Natural Organic Reduction -legal in Colorado and Oregon etc), alkaline hydrolysis (water cremation). and much more. 7 Ponds interview with an expert in Texas: If a family wants to take their loved one’s body from a hospital or care home, what do they need to know? Most hospitals, nursing homes and other systems have a policy that when their customer dies, the family has to call a funeral home to pick up the body. When a family refuses, there’s immediate push-back. That policy is actually against the law. First, they’re forcing the family into a contract with a funeral home. So it’s a contract under duress, which is illegal anywhere in this country. And then the second issue is that it’s the family’s responsibility to dispose of the body how they see fit, so the corporate policy goes against that. Lawyers understand when it’s stated to them that way, and will tell the hospital, “Let them have the body,” because they don’t want any trouble. When I’ve coached people, we’ve never lost that fight. In Texas — I don’t know about other states — it’s illegal to hold a dead body hostage for any reason. So if a funeral home has the body and the family goes down there and they don’t have any money to pay for anything, the funeral home can’t say, “We’re just going to keep old dead Fred here until you come up with the money and it’s going to cost you a hundred dollars a day for refrigeration.” That’s holding a body hostage. If the family’s going to pick up the body, how many people should they bring? Do they need any special equipment? It’s not the hospital’s job to have a body board or anything like that, because they’re accustomed to the funeral home coming in with the equipment. The body will come out on a gurney in a slip sheet. I don’t know how many dead bodies you’ve handled, but they’re pretty difficult. So the family just needs a body board — they could get a body bag, which is still not rigid, but a lot of them have handles. You just need something to slip under there and have some handles on it, pick it up and put it in the minivan. Plywood’s really expensive nowadays, but maybe an ironing board or whatever works. And four people for 100 pounds would be about right. What kind of vehicle should someone use — can they just rent a van? It’s just hauling freight. You just measure whatever container you’ve got and measure the van or pickup to see if it’ll fit. With most any minivan, they’ll pull out the seats — the middle and the last row. That’s how most bodies are transported by funeral homes. And because the box lays low on the floor, you can’t see it through the windows. A Chevrolet Tahoe will fit if you just fold down both rows of seats — that’s what we did with my dad. Pickup trucks are easy to load, typically long enough, but the body’s out in the sunshine and the rain. But a good, heavy tarp, and it’s all right. Utah Law says when delivering a body to a crematory, it can either be delivered in a casket or a CremationContainer and here is what qualifies: "Cremation container" means the container: (i)composed of readily combustible or consumable materials suitable for cremation; (ii)able to be closed in order to provide a complete covering for the human remains; (iii)resistant to leakage or spillage; (iv)rigid enough for handling with ease; and (v)able to provide protection for the health, safety, and personal integrity of crematory personnel.

Cheapest cremation in Utah, options for dealing with cremated remains. Does God oppose cremation? Cremation 2025 Lowest CREMATION Prices In UTAH Prices Below Include Alternative container (box to cremate the body in) Temporary container (box to take the ashes home), First Utah Death Certificate [$30] Medical Examiners' Permit [$157] Add $10/extra Death Cert +$? if over 200 lbs +$? if over 50 miles +$? tax on tangible items U of U Body Donor Program Cremations (criteria are on their website) FREE Kramer Family (Order Online, West Valley, Ogden, Orem) $857 "Just Cremations" (Salt lake & Provo) $882 Premier (Based in Salt Lake. Orem, Roy) $937 Inspire (Salt lake) $962 Provident (S. Ogden) $1,037 Serenicare (Based in Salt Lake. Ogden, Davis, Weber, Cache Valley & Utah County) $1,062 Wiscombe (Salt Lake County) $1,132 After.com (Order Online, Wasatch, Weber, Davis, Salt Lake, Summit & Utah Counties) $1,182 Basin Cremation Center (Vernal) $1,182 Cremation by Design (SLC Online/phone order) $1,182 Utah Simple Cremations (Murray) $1,182 Is Cremation Opposed by God? Scriptural and Religious Statements on Modes of Disposition What is the "Alternative Container"? What is the "Temporary Container"? After cremation mortuaries release your loved ones cremated remains in a plastic or cardboard box. It may even be stamped with the giant words "Temporary Container". You don't have to buy the permanent "respectable" urns they sell. Choose a special container from your home, make your own, or buy one online. For a meaningful experience later, you can gather loved ones to transfer the cremated remains yourselves. Do I have to hire a funeral home to Host a Final Goodbye? You don't have to hire a funeral home to hold "a funeral" BEFORE a cremation, or "a memorial" AFTER a cremation. If one of you knows how to conduct a meeting and you have a vehicle to transport decor or plants then you don't need to hire out. A Basic Cremation Casket aka "Alternative Container" around $150 Example of a "Deluxe" Cremation Casket $600 What to Do with CREMATED REMAINS: EIGHT OPTIONS Burial Most cemeteries require that an urn surround cremated remains, as well as an outer burial container made of fiberglass or concrete. A cemetery may require you to buy that from them, or have strict rules about what type of vault you can use. They will also charge a $300 or more opening and closing fee for the burial (inurnment), and you will likely have to purchase a grave marker. On the bright side, 2 to 6 persons' ashes may be buried in each plot in most cemeteries. Entombment (inurnment) The cremated remains in their container are placed in a niche or crypt. Cemeteries may have requirements for the type of remains container they'll accept, especially if the crypt spaces are glass fronted. An outer burial container is not required. Burial in a place other than a cemetery Some people want to bury ashes on private property (with permission of owner). It is unlawful to bury them on public property but you may scatter (check if a permit is needed). Regardless of your spiritual or faith tradition, if you like the idea of earth burial but dislike the additional commercial cemetery costs, and if a grave marker is not important to you, your options for earth burial are limited only by your imagination - and the law, of course. Burying ashes in a biodegradable urn tree-planting system There are at least four variations of this gizmo on the market. The come-on is, “After you die, you will become a tree.” The science is far from clear whether the imbalance of nutrients and minerals in ashes actually contributes much of anything to the growth of a tree. And ashes do not decompose. That said, when the house is sold in 30 years, will family want to move the tree to a new house? What if after transplanting, the tree dies? And when that house is sold in 10 years, will the tree be moved again? If you decide to leave the tree, will someone tell the new owners someone’s ashes are buried in the yard? The law doesn’t require it, but does courtesy? For some, there’s an emotional appeal to believing you have Grandma, in the form of a tree, in the back yard. Emotional appeals generally have a short shelf life. What happens to ashes is a decision for the long term. Scattering/dispersal Cremated remains (bones the size and texture of sand) can be scattered on uninhabited public land, or private property with owners permission. As to pouring ashes directly into bodies of water: Don't. (exception: the ocean). The ph of cremated remains is extremely alkaline (about 11.5, the same level as bleach) and the sodium content equals about 1.5 cups of salt, which can kill leaves of plants first and then the roots. Recommendation: Amend cremated remains to reduce harm to plant life: https://www.after.com/articles/how-to-neutralize-cremation-ashes Scattering guidance from the Bureau of Land Management: https://www.blm.gov/sites/blm.gov/files/uploads/IM2011-159_att1.pdf An excellent short article from FCA's Maryland affiliate. Note: even a light breeze can affect whether ashes go where you want them to or back in your face or on your clothes. Ossuary For those who want cremated remains to be interred in a cemetery, but find the cost of either burial or inurnment (see above) prohibitive, there's another option. An ossuary allows cremated remains to be entombed communally for free. Even some very expensive cemeteries offer this option (such as Wasatch Lawn on highland Dr in SLC) and it's available to the public with no exclusions. Cremated remains (ashes) are poured into a below-ground chamber where they are co-mingled with the ashes of others. Larkin Cemetery had a special day for this in 2022 https://www.fox13now.com/the-place/statistics-show-1-in-5-households-have-the-cremated-remains-or-ashes-of-a-loved-one-at-home Some cemeteries define “ossuary” differently. At one cemetery urns are placed adjacent to each other on shelves hidden behind a paneled wall. Name and dates may (or may not be) inscribed nearby. Home keeping Sometimes people keep the ashes of a loved one at home because they can't make up their mind what to do with them. Others decide to enshrine them in some fashion, such as placing them on a mantel. Or they simply aren't ready to release the last material remains of their loved one. Whatever the reason or duration, you need a final final destination plan. (see below.) Long Term Solutions for Remains "kept at home" Does Mom want the kids to take turns caring for Dad's ashes after she's gone? After she dies, does she want her ashes mixed with Dad’s, and then divided equally among the kids? There's still the need for a final plan. Our culture doesn't have a tradition of passing bodily remains down the generations. And home-keeping cremated remains is only a temporary thing, even if "temporary" is several years or even decades. It's important to make a plan for the final final destination of your ashes. Turning ashes into a keepsake You can have your loved one’s ashes turned into several different memorial keepsakes: pottery, dinnerware, jewelry, diamonds and stones https://www.thelivingurn.com/collections/cremation-stones . If you go the jewelry route, you’ll have a lot of leftover ashes. There’s an emotional appeal to wearing a pendant or diamond ring, or eating off dinner plates, made out of Mom’s ashes. And if a plate is broken? “Oops. Sorry Mom.” Will that ring or pendant end up in a second-hand store in fifty years? You need a final final destination plan for such memorial keepsakes. How Do Families Sell Cemetery Plots They No Longer Need? Here is one family's success story selling their plots using Facebook Marketplace. Here, another family describes what they found when trying to sell or donate theirs: https://mdfunerals.org/2019/02/06/disposing-of-unneeded-cemetery-plots/#more-884 Shipping & Traveling with Cremated Remains Mailing cremated remains The United States Postal Service (USPS) is the only shipper that allows the shipment of cremated remains. There are specific requirements for preparing, packaging, and shipping human (or animal) cremated remains. You must use Priority Mail Express, and clearly identify the contents. USPS even has a special Cremated Remains label (Label 139) available at your post office. An illustrated US Postal Service brochure, How to Package and Ship Cremated Remains , explains it all for you, including information on how to ship to an address outside the United States. Flying with cremated remains The Transportation Safety Administration (TSA) has special rules for transporting cremated remains in checked bags and as a carry-on item: Some airlines do not allow cremated remains in checked bags, so please check with your airline to learn more about possible restrictions. To facilitate screening, we suggest that you purchase a temporary or permanent crematory container made of a lighter weight material, such as wood or plastic. If the container is made of a material that generates an opaque image, TSA officers will not be able to clearly determine what is inside the container and the container will not be allowed. Out of respect for the deceased, TSA officers will not open a container, even if requested by the passenger. Airline cremated remains policies differ from carrier to carrier. Delta’s Cremated Remains policy is under “Fragile, Bulky & Other Items.” United’s Cremated Human Remains policy is under “High value, fragile & perishable items.” Look up the latest rule with your airline or TSA before attempting to fly with cremated remains. I saw an elderly widow protest as her box of cremated remains was opened in front of everyone in security. It was sad. Thanks to Funeral Resources MN for much of the content of this section

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